For the most part, men do not like women who are needy. It can be completely draining, time encompassing, and a huge turn off. It is natural for everyone to want to feel needed, but not for another person’s every emotional need.
Being needy isn’t just a turn off to men, but to your friends as well. Being a friend means that you want to be there for that person, enjoy their friendship, share experiences and support one another. However, if you are always the one in need of support, if you can’t make it through a day without having someone there at all times, it can be too much, even for the nicest of people.
Here are a few signs that you might just be too needy:
You text your boyfriend several times a day for no reason other than to find out what he is doing. It is not necessary to check in with your significant other every hour on the hour, or blow up phone if he doesn’t answer right away.
Your guy goes out with his friends and you want to know why he went out, who he was with, what did he do, where did they go, when will they be back, and then you probably text the entire time he is gone. Give the guy a break; men don’t like to feel like they are tied to a leash, especially when they are out with their friends. You can only make this worse by calling or texting him the minute he said he would be home.
Being available for him at any and all times. Although you may think that it is best to be available to be at his beck and call it really isn’t. Breaking plans to be with him or sitting around the house waiting for his phone call will only make you depressed and lonely when he doesn’t call. The best thing to do is to have your own friends, your own interests and don’t always break off your plans to be with him. A healthy amount of separation will make it that much better when you are with him.
Do not go out of your way to agree with everything he says and please him. Men like women who can think for themselves, have their own opinions, likes and dislikes. A woman who will do anything and everything a man says or agrees with everything he says is only letting him know that she is desperate for a relationship.
A great place in Oakland California to contact regarding depression is The West Oakland Health Council, a non profit Community Health Center that provides primary care, mental health care and substance abuse recovery services to the residents of the east bay. http://www.wohc.org/
Depending on someone else to fill you’re every emotional need or to distract you from feeling sad is not normal or healthy. If you feel like you can’t be happy unless someone is with you at all times and when you are alone you are sad and depressed or unmotivated then you might be clinically depressed. If you find it difficult to function on a daily basis or find that you are often overwhelmed and sad when alone then you may need to seek professional help. Clinical depression is a very serious thing and should be checked with your health care provider.