Parents spend a sufficient amount of time trying to mold their children into a certain image. As a result, some parents place unnecessary pressures on themselves and their children. Much of this stress actually comes from the society in which we live.
For instance, society communicates that great parents have children who earn straight A’s in school. Society also attempts to dictate the normal behavior for children.
As Christian parents, we have to be careful of these traps and make sure we are raising our children according to God’s standard.
Most parents think they are exceptional parents if their children are excelling in school and are behaving a certain way. This means that if their children are struggling academically for a period of time or misbehaving, these parents blame themselves and judge their children harshly.
However, as Christian parents, we have to trust that God will work every situation out for good and not for evil. God is able to use our children’s negative educational or behavioral problems to transform them into his perfect plan and image.
The book of Jeremiah 29:11 reads, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).
Based on that passage of Scripture, parents can strengthen their faith, knowing that God has the best plan for their children. God will take their children’s unfortunate experiences and use those situations to prosper them.
Another encouraging Scripture is found in Romans 8:28. The passage says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, whohave been called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).
Christian parents do not have to wallow in anxiety when their children have a rough time in school. They just have to raise their shield of faith because God takes the stressful events of our lives and make them work in our favor.
My oldest daughter struggled terribly in elementary school, and her behavior was at times distasteful. People would encourage me by saying, “She’ll change.” Then my daughter began to shine academically and behaviorally in eighth grade.
God has taken those difficult years and turned them around for good. Now my daughter is succeeding in high school and has a positive attitude.
There is nothing too hard for God. He will help us with our children. We just have to strive to meet his standard, not the world’s way of doing things.