The “Today” show reported this morning that New York City is hosting America’s first ever Divorce Expo. Called Start Over Smart, the expo will feature professionals and businesses offering services of interest to those considering divorce.
As you might imagine, vendors include attorneys, counselors, even match-makers. The event organizers say they hope the expo will help dispel negativity surrounding divorce, and help “demystify” a process that many go through, but few talk about.
On the one hand, that makes sense. I believe that some couples may have stayed together, had they fully understood the ramifications of divorcing. The more open conversation we have about difficult subjects, like divorce, the better. This series of articles about Divorce Myths is written with the same intention—to let people who are considering divorce know what they are getting into.
One thing K, a Reno insurance industry employee, wishes she had known before getting divorced is that she would forever harbor “fears and reservations about marrying again…even if you found the perfect person.” K says she is in that situation now—with the perfect mate for her, but scared to take the plunge.
Gathering people to discuss various aspects of divorce, as the expo is doing, may help some. But the vendors may paint too rosy a picture of post-divorce life, and they do not have your best interests at heart. After all, how much can you believe someone who trying to sell you something? The last thing a matchmaker is going to say is that you need to forego his or her services and instead stay with the match you have already made.
To get the real scoop, it may be more helpful to consult friends. With nothing on the line, and an interest in seeing you happy, they may be more likely to tell it like it is. And, of course, keep reading articles.