Bullies are really cowards trying to feel bigger and better than you. They are also kids just like you asking for love.
Respond to a bully in a way that shows them you can “act” crazier than they are behaving and they will most likely stop picking on you.
In the beginning, try “polite crazy” by making a joke, laughing at the bully’s efforts to scare you, or being especially friendly and helpful to the kid who is bothering you.
Say “thank you” to the mean words spoken – it will surprise your bully and take them off guard.
If this doesn’t work:
Stand up to them, get in their face, and tell them loudly to “BACK OFF NOW!”
In a loud voice tell them to “STOP!”
Be sure and look the bully in the eye as you speak…facing them and being able to look the bully in the eye is a show of confidence.
Yell at them.
Take a couple of steps toward the bully and yell “KNOCK IT OFF NOW!”
Make a scene, slam your locker door, act like Tarzan – pound your chest with your fits and yell at the top of your lungs!
This is the time to make a scene, be as noisy as you can, draw attention to yourselves and “act” like a crazy person – start doing a Crazy Dance right in front of them – swing your arms all around, stomp and kick your feet, yelling the whole time!
Watch this woman in the video during a bear encounter for inspiration!
Will this feel embarrassing? Probably…but your ability to get through each day in peace depends on it.
Do you want to feel embarrassed for a few moments or bullied every day?
Don’t be afraid of making a scene. It proves to the kid bullying you that they’ve picked on the wrong kid.
Bullies only pick on kids they think won’t stand up to them
Bullies pick on shy personalities who have trouble being assertive…this is why bullies pick on them and not the assertive, confident kids.
Show the bully they were wrong.
Now is the time to pretend you are someone else…someone big, tall, strong, brave and confident.
Practice talking to your bully in front of a mirror or with a friend. Rehearse what you want to say so that you will sound confident when you say it.
Take a deep breath, exhale loudly, and then pretend you are the size of a gorilla, and scare that bully off.
After researching the education we are providing our kids about bullies, I’m taking the old-school stance:
First, ignore it.
If the bullying doesn’t stop, tell them to stop.
If it continues, make the biggest scene you’ve ever made in your life and get the attention of everyone and anyone around.
While it sounds responsible to notify the school, not only is this often pointless, it often worsens the situation.
Example scenario: a kid gets bullied; kid tells the teacher; the bully gets in trouble; the bully knows who they’ve bullied and the first chance they get they are going to be all over the squealer.
Notifying the bully’s parents. This is a good one. Where do you think they learned this bullying behavior?
Either the bully will be rewarded by the senior bull of the family, or be so severely punished that the anger will explode inside of the bully causing a ripple of more incidents. Or, the whole matter will be ignored because of the limited authority in the home.
Plus, neither the school nor the parents are going to protect the kid being bullied at the bus stop, walking home from school, in the back of the bus, or in the bathroom.
Kids must learn to speak up for themselves
Kids, you must learn to speak up for yourselves! Believe it or not, all you need is a big, strong, loud, crazy-like voice and convince the bully you are crazier than they are.
Forget the reason you are being bullied and focus on the fact that all bullies are cowards on the inside. Prove to them you can put on a “crazy show” and stand them off.
Do not use your body against a bully – you won’t win. Do not use a weapon of any kind or use any object as a weapon. It will be used against you.
Use your voice – over and over and over…and louder and louder
Talk to your friends and tell them what’s going on. Sharing these scary situations can help you discover ways to deal with it.
Talk to your parents, or another trusted adult, and tell them what’s going on.
Even if the reason you are being bullied is embarrassing to you, being bullied, teased, harassed or assaulted for any reason is never okay.
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