Women are pretty good at fishing for compliments. How does this make me look? How’s my hair? Does the food taste okay? And on and on and on. We go on and on fishing for compliments when they aren’t readily and steadily thrown out. We soak up every positive piece of affirmation and allow our significant other to slowly boost our self esteem day after day.
Apparently some women think it’s okay to avoid complimenting their man so it doesn’t “blow his head up”. We’re not talking about, oh you forgot to compliment him or it just slipped your mind. We’re talking about specifically and intentionally avoiding compliments towards your boyfriend, fiance, or husband so you don’t “puff him up”. This is crazy!
“Women are never disarmed by compliments; men always are.” ~Oscar Wilde, An Ideal Husband, 1899
Women are always expecting (and receiving) compliments. But rarely do they take the time to give their significant other words of encouragement. Men don’t beg for compliments. They don’t try to coerce them out of you. They just go on with life waiting (oftentimes in vain) for that positive reinforcement they need. Women think men don’t want or need compliments just because they don’t ask for them. But they do. They want and need compliments just as much as women do.
“Men prefer brief praise, pitched high; women are satisfied with praise in a lower key, just so it goes on and on.” ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic’s Notebook, 1960{C}{C}{C}
Top 10 Compliments for your man
- Compliment his work ethic – If you’ve got a hardworking man who’s doing his absolute best to provide for you and the family you’ve got to show him how much you appreciate it.
- Compliment his hair – Women fish for hair compliments all the time. If he’s having a great hair day, let him know. He probably wants you to acknowledge his haircut just as much as you want him to acknowledge yours.
- Compliment his character – A good man with a moral compass is hard to find. If he is the kind of guy who does the right thing, don’t take that for granted.
- Compliment his ability to make you laugh and smile – The number one thing women look for in a mate is someone with a sense of humor. Good looks will fade away, but if you’ve got someone who can make you laugh and smile, you’ve got the potential for a longstanding relationship.
- Compliment his looks – As shallow as it may seem, the first thing you probably noticed about your significant other was the way they look. Being physically attracted to the one you love is a very important part of your relationship. And telling that person how attracted to them you are is also important. It’s something you cannot forget no matter how long you’ve been together.
- Compliment the little things – Sometimes we wait on the “big things” to tell someone how we feel, but relationships are really all about the little things. All of the little day to day things really add up.
- Compliment his advice – Women just want to vent when they’re upset. And unfortunately, our sweet honey love muffin tends to be the sounding board when we’re upset. You just wanted to get things off your chest, but he wants to fix it and solve all your problems. Don’t just blow him and his suggestions off. Thank him for always being their to support you and offer up advice.
- Compliment his physique – Men are self conscious about their bodies too. If he’s been working out and eating healthy, let him know you’re noticing his progress.
- Compliment his skills – Whether it’s cooking, cleaning, fixing the car, or making love, make sure to let him know what he’s good at.
- Compliment his ability to support you – Relationships are all about supporting each other and being partners in this thing called life. If you’ve got someone who supports you in all you do, be sure to show him how much you appreciate him.
What do you think? Are women less likely to dish out compliments?
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