Long before being admitted into the hospital, many soon-to-be parents create a birth plan for their stay. For those of you who are unaware of this so-called birth plan, it is a straightforward statement of your wishes for the delivery, which usually includes care before and after for yourself and your child. Of course you can’t always expect the delivery to go exactly according to plan; however, this is beside the point.
Most of us have an idea of how we want to raise our children. For example, I knew from the beginning that I wanted to home school my children. I also do not believe in vaccinating my children, because in all of my research I’ve come to the conclusion that I do not want unnecessary chemicals, such as formaldehyde or mercury, injected into mine or my children’s bodies.
Because of the choices I’ve made, even prior to having my own children, I’ve constantly had to resist peer pressure including medical advice, public school teachers and officials telling me what is best for my children. If you think about it, being the parent of my own children, wouldn’t you think I have an idea of how I plan to take care of them?
The moral of the story is this: stand strong. When you firmly believe in something and you plan to stick to it, you need to stand your ground. It is said that “if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.” This is entirely true. Also, if you’re not sure what you believe, never just assume someone else knows the answer. There is never a correct answer to any solution regarding your kids. You are the only one that knows what is best for them, and it is up to you to decide how they will be raised.
In the birth plan with my last child I included that I did not want blood drawn or tested, I did not want her vaccinated, I did not want that ‘goop’ in her eyes, and I wanted her father to be present with her at all times if it was necessary that she was taken elsewhere (which came in handy, as they needed to rush her to the nursery due to a slight temperature). These were my requests, and as every single nurse that I saw during my stay at the hospital—yes, every nurse at every ‘check-up’—explained to me why this or that vaccine was important, I refused with a smile every time.
Resist peer pressure. It may take a little courage to stand up to someone you’d think knows what’s best, however, if you take a little time and really do your homework, the answers you’re looking for may jump out to you in black and white, in which case, the courage you need will take no effort at all when it comes to protecting your child.