One of the most difficult parts about going through your divorce in Milwaukee is how to handle child custody. Especially when you are dealing with a parent who treats the children as pawns, it can be difficult and even emotionally damaging to the children. When this happens, it is up to the parent who isn’t putting the children in the middle to look out for the best interest of the children, but how do you do that?
If you go into court demanding that the other parent is stripped of his rights, you aren’t likely to achieve what you are trying to. It is important to never go into court without proof of your allegations. One of the things courts look for is which parent is most likely to encourage a relationship with the other parent. If you tell the court you want the other parent out of your children’s lives, you may find you get the opposite results. Always approach this calmly, armed with the proper proof so you can show what is happening with the children.
One way to gain the proof you need is to get your children into counseling. There are many counseling options available in Milwaukee. This will give you a third party that can attest to the information you are trying to get across to the courts without looking like you are simply trying to keep the children for yourself. In many cases, the opinion of a professional will weigh heavily in court. At the very least, your children will gain coping skills so they don’t feel caught in the middle.
Another option is to try to talk to the other parent. This can be difficult, especially if you aren’t on good terms. In some cases, the other parent may continue to do the opposite just because he thinks it bothers you. Therefore, it is important to weigh your relationship with your ex to determine if talking about it will help or cause more problems. If it will cause more problems, it is best not to even approach the subject. In more amicable cases, mediation may help.
The most important thing in all of this is to do your best not to put the kids in the middle. It is so tempting to say bad things about the other parent in return or to defend yourself. Avoid talking about it with your children or even within their hearing range. Even with the best of intentions, this can cause even more harm. Instead, talk to a lawyer and decide if it is worth going to court for a modification.
Divorce is never easy, especially when children are involved. However, it can be made even more difficult when one or both parents put the children in the middle of their problems. Children love both their parents and should never feel as though they need to choose.