Bishop T.D. Jakes and his wife, Serita have been married for 30 years. That is an accomplishment considering the divorce rate in America these days. There are reasons the couple has overcome challenges and maintained a healthy relationship for three decades.
In a recent interview on “Oprah’s Next Chapter,” the couple opened up about what has kept them together.
When Oprah asked them how their marriage has lasted so long, Serita Jakes said, “Lots of communication, lots of talking over the phone when he’s traveling. As he’s evolved, I’ve had to evolve with him, and so, instead of being left behind, when he goes out into the world, he comes back and he tells me about everything.”
T.D. and Serita Jakes were married in 1981 and have five children. They testified they have experienced difficulties like all couples, but that through the difficult times they were able to come closer to each other. In an earlier interview, Bishop Jakes talked about the toll it took on the family when his 14-year old daughter became pregnant.
Other events challenged their relationship, but they overcame them. Not even six months into their marriage the couple suffered a devastating car crash that left doctors unsure if Serita would ever walk again because of damage to her feet and legs.
Bishop Jakes said, “I think it enriched our marriage in a lot of ways. It was very difficult to go through. I prayed for her, I took care of her, I cooked for her, I washed her hair, taught her how to walk, literally. I stood in front of her and said you can do this and taught her to walk again.”
Bishop Jakes concluded, “It brought us together in a way – we have an unexplainable connection. I guess at the core, we’re friends…I know that she is for me.”
Serita admitted that when they first got married she had to deal with many of her husband’s ex-girlfriends who thought the two of them shouldn’t have gotten married.
When asked if it has been a difficult process, both of the Jakes said, “Yes.” Then Serita concluded, “You have to work at marriage; it’s an assignment.”