Penetrating The Secret Art of Gay Male Seduction
I met a man, once, who was in the latter stages of physical decline due to AIDS. He looked me straight in the eyes, with great strength, while holding back tears.
“You know,” He said.
“I didn’t have any mentors,” a both sad, and relevant statement.
The community, for what’s left of it, is never in shortage of positive male role models.
We see plenty of examples of how to do i.e. media portrayals or, how not to do i.e. sex offenders and social deviants. The world seems determined in portraying homosexuality as the epitome of everything that is evil; therefore, why should we concern ourselves with being something other than what we’ve been labeled?
The answer – self-satisfaction.
Denying oneself from oneself is the ultimate betrayal of all. Being gay is not easy, this is true, but difficultly should never be an excuse to give up entirely. There lacks a social code, a rule book here say, which might give us insight into how best venture into the uncharted and often dangerous waters of male/ male hunting. But like all conquistadors, of the past centuries, fortune comes to those, bold enough, who take the road less traveled.
Of course a sedentary lifestyle, of heterosexuality, is always an option. It’s not a matter of being born gay, or straight, but more of allowing one’s self to be open to the fluidity of sexuality, in the first place. Indeed men and women are both sexually attractive, each of who possess ideal traits of sexual satisfaction and selection; however, deciding is a matter of which excites just a little bit more.
Perhaps the ‘devious’ nature of the ‘homosexual’ lifestyle has indeed made it that much more appealing. After all being gay comes with a zero chance of pregnancy, limited social obligations, and of course the privilege of not stopping mid conversation, to take a bathroom break. It seems, that the decisive factor is, what will give your life more personal satisfaction? Yes, a life spent with the companionship with a woman might not only be socially acceptable, and easier but, what of the life of the pariah, the illusive homosexual?
It seems odd that one would choose to be out casted, ridiculed, and of course denounced as being anything close to human; however, it is in the balance found within the homosexual man that once allowed him to be revered as nothing short of divine.
Ancient cultures once herald the homosexual as being a physical manifestation of God. In being able to possess both male and female attributes, sensitivity and physical exertion, aggression and compassion, homosexuality was once prized as the highest regard of love, in the physical form. Today we have been brainwashed, told over and over again, that happiness can only come in the form of a man whom must lie with his opposite; woman.
Opposites may attract, but so can they repel. Being of the entirely opposite nature of something often spells a recipe for disaster. Baking soda and hydrogen peroxide can lead to explosive results; where as, the consistencies of oil and vinegar may together be both pungent, and flavorful – The pair; however, are never able to join in holy matrimony. It is in their ability to compliment one another that they find success. A victory that arises only by providing what the other lacks.
The case of equality is another matter entirely
When one is able to be both, the oil and, the vinegar, the sweet and, the savory, a duality within one, then the need for another diminishes. Completion within oneself and the absence of anyone else is perhaps the most remarkable attribute of being gay. We are men in that we learn how to defend our selves and embrace our survival instinct. By chance of fate, genetics, or sheer will power, we are able to embrace feminine attributes as well. Being able to feel emotionality and walk through the world with a sense of empathy, a trait that now too few highly regard, gives us strength in our ability to feel and to care.
What then becomes the decisive factor in something that is sustainable alone but seeks to be combined? Two individuals, idealists, seeking nothing from the other and yet choosing to remain committed, is quite possibly the recipe for the best-suited and longest lasting relationship. It is because both have chosen to remain together, for no other reason than, out of love.
Companionship, a destination of clarity but, how do we get there? Unlike the ‘hetero-normative’ lifestyle that spills out rules for each gender, from which to proceed, gay men are often left shooting in the dark. As the old saying goes, if two men are on a date who pays? Although the answer to the former question might vary, that doesn’t discount that being gay has a set of unwritten but omnipotent rules. Rules, in which how: to date, to fuck, to love, and to hate. Rules, in which how: to engage, avoid, spark conversation, and end a bitter feud. Rules, in which have seen but never written. The art of the hunt, the skill of prowling, and a language devoid of words, all amounting to a worthy companion, making all that has led up till now, worthwhile.
In the articles to follow, I hope to share with you these rules from which I have tested in the social jungles of San Francisco; however, I ask you to be patient. I am not omnipotent, nor am I a declaring that I am immune from making mistakes. I am merely learning as I go. As a deep thinker, social observer, and, to the lucky few in the community, a test subject, I write as a loyal friend and companion seeking only to prove the impossible – Love knows no gender.
Practice makes perfect, and if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. Beethoven didn’t compose a masterpiece in minutes, nor did Edison discover electricity in a few minor attempts. Failure is a necessary component of success. It is through trial and tribulation, with each failed attempt making us that much closer to a successful seduction. Regardless, we are learning, and must never forget how to pick ourselves back up and try again. With time, patience, and practice it does get better, but only if you believe it does.
For now, I can only show you the way, the steps; however, are for you to take. Let us never forget where we’ve come and of course where we are going. In the words of Frederick E. Pearl “I do my thing, and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful.”