The image of beauty is a topic which has always received great debate over the years. From one strict counterview to another, it seems as though someone always has something to say on the subject. In reality, it truly isn’t all that complicated. There’s no reason to draw the issue out and create drama where it’s not needed. The moral of the story is simple – we are all beautiful.
It’s the simple things, like feeling someone’s heart beating or breathing them in when you’re giving them a hug, that makes you realize what was truly so easy to see in the first place – we are all the same. No one’s image of beauty should reign over another’s, and that includes someone’s inner and outer “beauty”. We should all enjoy one another’s company and learn to love someone for their contents, not by what we judge from first seeing their outer self. When you start do this, you can appreciate life as a whole so much more, by being positive and respectful, to yourself and those around you. No one deserves to feel less than equal, or left out. You wouldn’t want to feel that feeling for yourself or for those you do care about, so why expect it to be right for someone else?
People should have a choice as to how they live their life; the way they dress, what they eat, what music they listen to. Some people can find any way to take judgment on someone else, when really we should appreciate all these different options we have in life and appreciate those around us, whether they are “like” us or not. Even for those people who have learned to “deal” or “accept” with others treating them poorly for unacceptable reasons, this is really not the way it should be. Those who are living life and treating others right should not be the ones who are forced to accept anything or change the way they are. It is those in the other position who need to make a change for the better, not only for the people they are hurting, but for the better of the world. If everyone were to do this, think of all that wasted time saved that could be spent on recognizing the talents and true beauty of others around us.
It is always important to care about your health and that includes taking care of yourself inside and out, but you should do so in a positive way, helping others to feel and look their best as well, instead of taking opportunities to create a negative issue out of it. Someone’s waist size, skin colour, or bank account should never have anything to do with what you think of them as a person, and this holds true no matter where you live.
Bullying has never been a nice thing to talk about, but this problem has truly become a world phenomenon by this point and certainly cannot be ignored. The main cause of bullying? Image of beauty. Someone trying to pull another person down because of the way they look, talk, or act. More cases of suicide than ever before are linked to bullying, which just goes to prove the seriousness of these acts and how devastating they can be, especially on younger children who are usually going through enough as it is and who often have not even developed their personality completely yet — even most grown adults can say the same about themselves — and who are therefore more vulnerable, particularly emotionally, to this kind of taunting.
It’s important to understand that often, those who are taking part in the bullying are often just as upset and struggling as much as those they are bullying. The difference is that they are taking out their feelings in an angry, selfish way, by sickly using the pain of others to make themselves feel better.
Solving a problem like this is obviously much easier said than done. It is horrible to see people acting this way toward one another? Yes. Is it horrifying to see how disgusting one human being can be to another, by picking apart someone’s spirit when they could be using that time to do good and help that person deal with any problems they may be dealing with or tough times they are going through? Absolutely. Is this obvious realization that so many of us see so clearly going to sink through to all those who are involved or will become involved in bullying of any shape or sort, to make them realize the errors of their ways and become better people? Not likely.
Bullying isn’t just something that takes place on the playground or on the walk to school, either. The term “bullying” can often create the wrong impression, assuming it only has to do with school-aged children. Even many adults are bullies, whether you’re referring to screaming adults who get into fist fights at children’s sporting events because they can’t control their tempers over what should be a FUN game for the CHILDREN, or to any person you ever hear call someone a name or try to tear someone down over the shade of their skin, culture, sexuality, job…you name it. Some people will find anything they can to try and use as an excuse to pick someone apart.
Eventually for most people, albeit too late to save the stress on those people they have hurt, do realize how seriously sick and wrong what they are doing actually is. Regardless of where you come from and how you choose to live your life, if you are not hurting anyone else and – hopefully – treating those around you and the world you live in decently and with respect, you should never be afraid to be who you are. The world was made for people just like you, not for those who are doing nothing but being hurtful and creating problems.
People who use bullying as a way to make themselves feel better are not only sad and desperate, but hopefully sooner rather than later realize there are ways to deal with the issues they are feeling, besides using people as your dartboard for your stinging words and often, even physical attacks, as a sick form of self-therapy. Just because someone isn’t like you, or you don’t like the way they are living their life, who cares? If you truly felt happy and confident, you would never feel the need to bring someone else down. No person has the right to judge someone else, if they are living their life without doing others harm. We should all respect one another and treat one another kindly, with love.
It really is so simple, and yet seems to be one of the most difficult things for many people to do. People go through tough times and instead of finding a friend, they take out their feelings with anger, often lashing out at another person instead of asking them for help. Maybe one day, more people will get over their egos and learn that the most important things in life are love, peace and happiness. OK, pure hippie statement, but the fact remains that it is true.
Fortunately, more people than ever before are recognizing this simple yet significant fact, and are taking a stand. Whether through organizations like Change.org where you have the opportunity to start, join, and win campaigns for change, or programs through websites like Bullying.org which offer resources to individuals, families, businesses and organizations to help work toward resolving the issue of bullying in society. In fact, the quote on the latter’s home page truly says it all: “Everyone has the right to be respected and the responsibility to respect others”.
It doesn’t make you a bad person to wear makeup, buy yourself a new dress, or spend an hour each day working out. Not at all. It’s so important to show your personality, express yourself, and enjoy your life. Taking care of yourself and respecting your body is not only helpful, it’s essential. It helps you feel your best and live life to the fullest. But the same goes for everyone else as well, and the best thing you can do is help others realize the same thing, and work together to achieve a common goal. To be happy and enjoy the life you were given.
To be truly beautiful, it’s not only about how you treat yourself, but how you treat others, even those people you don’t know. The issue here is using judgment against others for their own ideas of beauty. Instead of finding ways to use these differences to set us apart, it should be the other way around, realizing that it is these differences that make us all unique and which should bring us closer together – we are one.